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All of us know that the time will come for us to take our last breath …. yet many people decide to make their last days on earth wonderful … by doing something they have always longed to do.

I hope you will like this collection of last wish stories, some funny, some unusual, some loving, so let’s start here

 

Jack Benny, American Comedian

Jack Benny choose to spend his final days at home, visited by some of his many friends, including George Burns, Bob Hope, Frank Sinatra. Jack’s romantic final wish was that a single long stemmed red rose be delivered to his widow, Mary Livingstone, every day for the rest of her life.

Elizabeth Taylor, British Actress

Elizabeth Taylor. the great British actress, loved nothing more than to infuriate directors with her late arrival on set. So it was in death too.

In a typically playful final instruction the actress's flower-strewn coffin arrived at the Forest Lawn Cemetery in Glendale, California, 15 minutes after the announced time, fulfilling, her publicist said, a last wish "to be late for her own funeral”.

Ken Farlow, Veteran Aircraft Engineer

Former aircraft engineer Ken Farlow became an internet sensation when a picture taken by his daughter Helen Nock of him sitting in his wheelchair went viral.

She had taken him to a Gloucestershire Airport to fulfil his 'last wish' of being reunited with the iconic planes he worked on during the war. The image was spotted by the airport’s director of operations - who was so moved he invited Ken for a VIP visit.

Gene Rodenberg

Gene Rodenberry, the creator of the Star Trek TV phenomenon, loved space and science fiction so much that he requested that his body be cremated and sent into space. His final wishes were honoured and he was carried away from Earth on a Spanish satellite in 1997. His ashes were shot into the atmosphere as the satellite orbited the planet. His wife joined him in space after her death about 10 years later.

And the wish that inspired the Ambulance Wish Foundation in the UK

Mario, a zookeeper who was dying of brain cancer, wanted to see the giraffes he dearly loved at Rotterdam zoo again. One giraffe leaned over his bed and kissed him for a last time.

 

A final wish – Why?

Despite many advancements in medicine, all patients and their care teams must face death as an eventual reality. Unfortunately, the dying process can be a time of great loss and suffering. Illness can obliterate assumptions about the world and precipitate a grievous sense of isolation, brokenness, and loss of meaning. The challenge of losses that accompany a terminal illness can devastate both the person and the person’s family as they confront the confusion and anguish of approaching death. These patients will also want to remain in touch and feel part of the world, but for those who are immobile, achieving this can be difficult and can lead them to becoming isolated and alone.

The final stages of a terminal illness can be a highly challenging, emotional time and the focus of care usually changes to making them as comfortable as possible in order to make the most of the time they have left. Depending on the circumstances and illness, this period of care, often referred to as palliative care, can last days, months or years.

Palliative care is the care of patients with active, progressive, far-advanced disease, for whom the focus of care is the relief and prevention of suffering and the quality of life. It is applicable to patients of all ages and focuses primarily on anticipating, preventing, diagnosing, and treating symptoms experienced by patients with a serious or life-threatening illness and helping patients and their families make medically important decisions. The ultimate goal of palliative care is to improve quality of life for both the patient and the family, regardless of diagnosis.

While dying with dignity still remains a priority for most people in the world, some patients near the end of their lives, may have unconventional wishes such as holding their art exhibition, leaving little love notes hidden around the house, drinking their favourite beer or wine for the last time, or see their furry friend one last time.

The Ambulance Wish UK aims to bring peace to the final period of critically ill, immobile patients and to ease the grieving process by eliciting and implementing a wish identified by patients, families or clinicians. The Ambulance Wish programme seeks to provide care, even after accepting that death is imminent, by fulfilling wishes to celebrate the patient’s lives and passions. This can ease grief for families by providing a means for them to support their loved ones, and can allow clinicians to provide something for the patients even when they are unable to do so medically. By fulfilling wishes to those who have little time left, it will leave a lasting and memorable impact on all those involved.

The Ambulance Wish UK initiative is based on a Dutch model – Stichting Ambulance Wens – aimed at alleviating pain by giving hope. It is a programme which serves as a form of supplemental care for immobile, terminal patients and utilises volunteer clinicians’ skills and expertise to fulfil the wishes of individuals, giving them hope in their darkest days.

Compassion is at the heart of this voluntary organisation and the act of fulfilling wishes are completely free to the patient or their family. The volunteer team eases the suffering of the sick, injured or terminally ill by allowing them to experience joyous family occasions, visit family & friends, meaningful places, or do simple everyday activities that otherwise would be out of reach.

Reflecting on what becomes important to patients at the end of their life, do we miss the opportunities to address the things that really matter in the end?

Asking patients receiving end-of-life care “if there was one wish they’d like to have fulfilled, what would it be?” The responses are most often incredibly simple requests – including eating passionfruit ice cream, to visit their new grandchild, see their daughter get married or just to say goodbye, rather than wishing for better health, a big house or to win the lottery. The fulfilled wish often becomes their most treasured memory until the day they die and the gifted Ambulance Wish mascot every patient receives often becomes a treasured family memento.

Developing goals when a person knows they are dying, such as planning a final wish, also can give them hope and affirm the value that their life still has, even when it is limited in time and potential and that while the wish may seem inconsequential to others they are very important to the patient.

Facing death is an aspect of medicine that is tough for all those involved, including family, friends, providers, staff, and the patient. Small, low cost, low risk acts, such as granting final wishes, have been shown to ease the grieving process for patients, families, and medical staff. While the medical profession often turns to facts, science, and evidence before making decisions and taking action, The Ambulance Wish Foundation movement is based on something else. In terms of science, it is difficult to quantify, but it’s more about personalisation and a humanistic approach, simply it’s all about caring and adds a quality of life to their last days.

For patients, eliciting and customising the wishes honours them by celebrating their lives and dignifying their deaths. For families, it creates positive memories and individualised end-of-life care for their loved ones. For clinicians, it promotes inter-professional care and humanism in practice, integrating palliative, spiritual and critical care.

 

If you would like to donate to support our work granting end of life wishes, please do so at localgiving.org/charity/ambulance-wish-foundation

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